October 20, 2009

"When are you going to start dating again?"

I've been asked this more than a handful of times lately!! A bit like that movie "Must like dogs' I saw on TV recently.

Gosh it's a weird thought, a little scary even in this day in age... even though I'd love to be in a relationship again one day.

Of course its something I've contemplated, listened to others talk about, and mulling it all over have concluded for me (Not others!) that:

~until I have divorce papers in my hand, I'm still married ...and married woman don't date!

~I want to be happy and whole as a single woman
" You're ready for another relationship when you don't need another relationship...another person a sweet addition to the journey you're on"

~My children are my priority: Their best interests and wellbeing are paramount to me.  Let's get them through this bump in the road first. Phew I've heard a few horror stories too about the struggle blended families can be. I'm sure they're not all like that, but...it'd just have to be a really good fit!

~One day I want to share my life with a great man...perhaps I better work on becoming a better woman first then!!

"Marriage is not about finding the right person, it's about becoming the right person" Dr Robi Sonderegger


Cheryl said...

Your already an amazing woman Rebecca, any man that gets you will be very lucky!!

Gail said...

I agree!
And, as with all things, God's got a plan :)

Anonymous said...

The best thing you can do is to love and care for yourself and your children and the rest will come. I found the love of my life 13 years after my divorce, iot wasnt without its difficult times (his difficult adult children)but five years later we have a strong and happy marriage. good luck.