October 20, 2009

"When are you going to start dating again?"

I've been asked this more than a handful of times lately!! A bit like that movie "Must like dogs' I saw on TV recently.

Gosh it's a weird thought, a little scary even in this day in age... even though I'd love to be in a relationship again one day.

Of course its something I've contemplated, listened to others talk about, and mulling it all over have concluded for me (Not others!) that:

~until I have divorce papers in my hand, I'm still married ...and married woman don't date!

~I want to be happy and whole as a single woman
" You're ready for another relationship when you don't need another relationship...another person a sweet addition to the journey you're on"

~My children are my priority: Their best interests and wellbeing are paramount to me.  Let's get them through this bump in the road first. Phew I've heard a few horror stories too about the struggle blended families can be. I'm sure they're not all like that, but...it'd just have to be a really good fit!

~One day I want to share my life with a great man...perhaps I better work on becoming a better woman first then!!

"Marriage is not about finding the right person, it's about becoming the right person" Dr Robi Sonderegger

3 comments:

Cheryl said...

Your already an amazing woman Rebecca, any man that gets you will be very lucky!!

Gail said...

I agree!
And, as with all things, God's got a plan :)

Anonymous said...

The best thing you can do is to love and care for yourself and your children and the rest will come. I found the love of my life 13 years after my divorce, iot wasnt without its difficult times (his difficult adult children)but five years later we have a strong and happy marriage. good luck.